3 steps to transform your approach to conversations with strangers. At some point, you or someone you know will have said something like :— “I am not a fan of small talk” or “I hate small talk” or “I’m useless at making small talk.” Regardless of whether the context is…

3 Steps to being brave realistically — You have heard the first part of this phrase trotted out — and you might have read the classic book by Susan Jeffers. But — how can you really approach the message behind this well-known phrase? Try this realistic approach — step by step bravery. Feel the fear — get…

Why do you water down your achievements — when you really don’t need to? — Why do you go out of your way to take the spotlight off you when you are ‘in danger’ of being praised publically! Why to you go all ‘meek and humble’ when you have just done something special or been paid a compliment? Good questions eh? Well — let’s explore…

Swap fear for vulnerability and you share, rather than sit on, your knowledge, ideas and questions — and when you share you build authentic connection. — Vulnerability provides the bridge between curiosity and sharing — and sharing with vulnerability creates a connection that feels authentic. It all starts with curiosity. Curiosity is a life enhancer. Malcolm X luxuriates in the state of curiosity when he states:

What if you fall short of perfection on ‘special days’ like Christmas? Are you a failure? The myth of our potential can make of our lives a perpetual falling-short… Adam Phillips Thought provoking words from Adam Phillips — and I will adapt it to say: The myth of the perfect…

How to engage people without being a class clown. — Apparently Boris Johnson has it and his counterpart Keir lacks it. The ‘it’ is known as ‘charisma’. But what is it and what use is it to you? In a recent interview, Sky’s political editor Beth Rigby used the charisma word when she asked Sir Keir: “Do you sometimes feel…

‘I never said that!’ And then it starts — hurt, anger, self-sabotage sadness. What is going on and do you have a stop button? I was listening to a caller on a radio phone-in about doctors not seeing patients face to face — and how awful they are! The caller…

Are you only ‘truly meaningful’ if you have over 315.81 million followers? — Next time you agnoise over the number of ‘likes’ and ‘followers’ on your social media — stop and regain your instrinsic motivation! Don’t get sucked in by the ‘Ronaldo phenomenon’ trap. Ronaldo announced his transfer to Manchester United on Instagram and inspired 13 million people to press ‘like’. His iconic ‘Ronaldo 7’ replica kit broke the daily record for shirt sales!

Why we allow our nascient plans to be squashed under ‘know it all’ boots. — ‘Oh you shouldn’t do it that way… ’ ‘I’ve got a better idea… why don’t you…’ ‘I’ve come up with a plan for you…’ ‘That’s just a pipe dream … get real.’ And there it goes. Your independent thought. Your open door to making mistakes. Your voyage of discovery. What…